When my daughter was about two or so (she is a teenager now) I was a single working mom, which meant that I had to often work at night after my daughter was in bed. I had recently started Mamatotowear and was busy building my company.
So when bedtime took up towards four hours it could be a bit frustrating. We read books, I sang songs, we snuggled, and I remember at some point laying in her bed next to her, so stiff and frustrated that she didn’t fall asleep that I realized I needed to reach out for some help.
I was the first of my friends to have a baby, and I didn’t have a lot of people to ask, so I did something I felt very embarrassed about, I bought the Super Nanny book, I figured it could give me some ideas. As a parent I am not a huge fan of all her methods, but I was desperate, so I tried it.
Her bedtime method is all about routine, and I am all onboard with that, and boy did it work. In four days we went from four hours to about fifteen twenty minutes, both happy, and it was so easy.
My point is, we can all do this, but sometimes we need help, and that help looks different for all of us.
If you have a baby and you want to learn from the pros how babies work, then working with a maternity nurse who is aligned with your parenting beliefs is a really great idea. If you need continuous support, having an experienced nanny as a part of your team is a great idea. And sometimes reading books and trying things on your own is the best way to go. Just don’t be afraid to reach out for help when you need it.
ps. We have awesome nannies and maternity nurses on our books, but if you want us to help you vet the person you are thinking of hiring, we are happy to help.